tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post5521567095278370558..comments2023-12-28T06:30:30.527-05:00Comments on From Mrs. to Mama: A World You Can't Live WithoutMrs. Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08400154927719768544noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-82261114371405370902013-06-28T18:12:44.680-04:002013-06-28T18:12:44.680-04:00You need to be careful with those types of posts. ... You need to be careful with those types of posts. There are so many women who aren't moms...but it's not their choice. 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage and those moms have to experience the joy of the positive tests, knowing that they are a mom and then have it all torn away. Other moms try for years and decades and undergo countless treatments that leave them feeling broken and still do not have a baby to show for it. They have a mothers heart more than any one else and yet no one knows then they hear people talking about motherhood and read posts like these and their heart breaks over again. I know. I'm one of them. Just be careful...it's more common than people think and maybe your friend will change her mind about kids only to have those difficulties and all she will know is the sheer joy she is forced to miss out on. Jojo Fridayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234265239061118620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-18223351355919415292013-06-20T23:08:57.164-04:002013-06-20T23:08:57.164-04:00Great post. I look forward to motherhood and feeli...Great post. I look forward to motherhood and feeling the love for my own child. I do have a few friends who have expressed that they simply feel fulfilled in their lives without children. But I guess that's all relative. I think it all depends on who you are and what you want out of life!Becca {Becoming Adorrable}https://www.blogger.com/profile/15849430820963186547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-12058448188500836192013-06-20T22:58:09.486-04:002013-06-20T22:58:09.486-04:00@nursekim
I'm sorry that you felt that I was...@nursekim <br /><br />I'm sorry that you felt that I was knocking anyone that chose to have children. In fact I even said at the very beginning, it's not a life for everyone, and I know that people live rich happy lives without children. I proceeded to then just describe my experiences and how I viewed motherhood.<br /><br />Again, sorry for the misundersanding.Mrs. Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08400154927719768544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-90352992028899406312013-06-20T22:04:23.280-04:002013-06-20T22:04:23.280-04:00Don't knock those of us too hard who know we d...Don't knock those of us too hard who know we don't want kids of our own. <br /><br />Surely as a nurse, you've had (like I have) people say to you something like "Why didn't you go to med school? You'd be a great doctor!" My answer was always "B/c I wasn't called to". That's my same answer w motherhood. I'd be a good one. Or a good office manager. Or anything I put my mind to to be good at. But the desire to do those things simply isn't there. And that doesn't mean I feel like I'm missing out on anything.<br />I love plenty of kids fiercely, mostly because I love their parents. I've dated a man with kids and still love them. But all of the stuff you mentioned in your post? Don't appeal to me at all. And that is just as okay as it appealing to you.nursekimbroughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03774639155548974968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-58472069083843495412013-06-20T21:29:07.876-04:002013-06-20T21:29:07.876-04:00So beautiful and so true.So beautiful and so true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-84932345993339029672013-06-20T10:42:41.257-04:002013-06-20T10:42:41.257-04:00One of my very close friends said the same thing t...One of my very close friends said the same thing to me awhile ago, and the thing is - I KNEW there was something wrong with her statement. I knew her better than that. She was afraid that she was already getting 'too old' and had begun a relationship with a man who didn't want kids - she was trying to convince herself. I told her to imagine herself in 30 years and guess if she would be happy with that decision - she confessed that her answer was 'definitely not!'. It's so hard, because when you are young it really is hard to know how you'll feel about life when you're older, and I know many couples who chose the no-kids route until their 40's and then desperately tried to conceive anyway - often they were no longer able to. There's no clear answer... I'm definitely glad I've known how much I needed my kids right from the beginning. www.pinkbears.cahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07715044173963421056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-90947460664150536352013-06-20T10:38:00.025-04:002013-06-20T10:38:00.025-04:00Why explain that to her? Why meet her moment of v...Why explain that to her? Why meet her moment of vulnerability with anything other than a loving exploration of HER feelings?<br /><br />Was she having a change of heart? Was she changing her mind because she did not trust the situation a child would be brought into? Had you just assumed this role for her and she felt that it was imporant to be honest with you about where her heart really was?<br /><br />I have a son who I adore and I was living a comfortable and intentionally child-free life until I was 34. If you had asked me the day before I found out I was pregnant if I wanted a child I would have said no.<br /><br />What you wrote about your love for your child is absolutely beautiful and rings true, but I am sad at the thought that your friend may have been reaching out to confirm that you would still find her lovable even if she made a choice that was far away from your choices.HRCFShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11622154166582114272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-15220288061355942982013-06-20T10:01:34.748-04:002013-06-20T10:01:34.748-04:00As a little girl I dreamed of being a vet, a docto...As a little girl I dreamed of being a vet, a doctor, a business woman who wore high heels, and a momma. Even though I do have a business degree that I don't even use, only one of these dreams came true for me. The best dream in ALL the world. Being a momma to my three. I can't even begin to imagine my life without them. Thank you for this beautiful post, Becky! Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04038485760092997238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-47176688208252823102013-06-20T09:59:59.972-04:002013-06-20T09:59:59.972-04:00Amazing post. You have a gift with words.Amazing post. You have a gift with words.Nina https://www.blogger.com/profile/09303015270504204898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-74337069844379095112013-06-20T08:50:56.120-04:002013-06-20T08:50:56.120-04:00I have a few friends who've chosen not to have...I have a few friends who've chosen not to have kids, and I have the hardest time understanding it. I understand thinking that in your 20's, but in your 30's? The worst part is, I know a few women in their 50's, my parents friends, who feel they've made an enormous mistake in not having a family. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06844244923301263555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-7532681809555137412013-06-20T08:26:59.213-04:002013-06-20T08:26:59.213-04:00Great post. I'm looking forward to becoming a ...Great post. I'm looking forward to becoming a mama myself! :) Ashley Voyleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12953631595042091508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-4635288480253627452013-06-20T07:43:56.624-04:002013-06-20T07:43:56.624-04:00I think the words you have used to describe mother...I think the words you have used to describe motherhood are beautiful. And I agree with you for the most part - except my life didn't begin the day I became a mom. Everything leading up to that point helped me be the type of mom I am. However, your friend may just not "need" that in her life. You either feel it in your bones or you don't. Just like people feel they should stop at child #1, #2, etc. Motherhood isn't for everyone --- even for the ones you love the most.Meagan @ The Clanahan Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08761112127559135875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-17195962312894311762013-06-20T00:53:08.409-04:002013-06-20T00:53:08.409-04:00You explained it wonderfully. I could not imagine ...You explained it wonderfully. I could not imagine my life without my daughter or the one growing in my belly because as far as I'm concerned my life meant nothing before them. Did you tell your friend all this? How did she respond?Ashlie Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10227125668024836933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-635077151130554932.post-39747635651427813632013-06-20T00:20:38.509-04:002013-06-20T00:20:38.509-04:00this post is absolutely beautiful. I am not a mama...this post is absolutely beautiful. I am not a mama myself, but I look forward to experiencing all this in my future.. :)Katie Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05714846329015654717noreply@blogger.com