Show & Tell Monday; Wedding bells ringing

8.27.12

1. Are you married? If so when did you get married, and tell us about your special day. If not? How would you describe your dream wedding? 

Yes. Happily. Andrew and I got married 3 years ago (8/15/09) in Maui, Hawaii. I have talked about this before in more detail, but to briefly recap our day, the only words that come to mind was beautiful, perfect, and us. I had planned this big extravagant wedding for 6 months, decided to throw that out the window, did no planning for this one {except a phone call and a few emails}, and it was exactly what I had ever dreamed of, and more. And for those lingering minds, yes, it was just the two of us there. Well, besides the photographer, wedding coordinator, musician, and sweet ol' man that did the service. But yes, no family. No worries, we talked to them for an extensive amount of time prior to doing this and wouldn't have done it this way without their blessing. What can I say, our parents are amazing for putting their wishes aside and letting us follow our little dream. And because of this dream? We had no debt from a wedding. We had money for a down payment for a house. And we were able to start our lives. It's not for everyone, but it was definitely for us.

2. Show us some wedding pictures. Either yours or of some that you love.

3. How about the engagement? Tell us your story. If not engaged, what's your dream proposal?

Oh man. I have written "briefly" about this a few times. Honestly, it's not anything extravagant or over the top. In fact, I would say it was the complete opposite. But to me? To us? It fits us perfectly. Fits Andrew perfectly. He is not a "public romantic." Doesn't like attention. Wants the intimacy in private. Now, he loves PDA. Smooches, holding hands, squeezes. That is great. But as far as important things like a proposal, it has to be private. And by private, I mean in hotel room downtown, getting ready before our dinner to celebrate our 3rd anniversary and he climbs in behind me in the bathtub, puts his arms around me, and in front of my face is a big shiny beautiful ring. I wasn't surprised, as I kind of knew that it would probably happen this night. But it didn't take the excitement out of me. Not one bit. And how exciting for me to head out into the night with a ring on my finger. A newly engaged woman. It was perfect.

4. Show us your wedding rings or an engagement photo! If not engaged/married ... show us your "dream" ring.

5. Tell us why you think marriage doesn't work out for so many? What can we do to make things last 

I keep wanting to say how brilliant these questions are. But then I realize that I came up with them... so that would just sound obnoxious. So, the question? Why do I think it doesn't work out? Honestly, and I'm not saying this is true for everyone, so please don't take it that way as I do believe that there are certain circumstances where a marriage absolutely cannot and will not work and that it is healthier for two people to not be together. However, aside from those people, when we are speaking in general situations... I truly believe that marriage doesn't work out for multiple reasons. One being, people don't try hard enough. To make it work. To compromise. To meet the needs of their partner. To maintain a household and their role in the marriage. Second, I think sometimes people dream big. We have these ideas in our heads of what marriage should look like, this novel-like love until we reach age 80, and this perfect story to share our grandchildren. So when those dreams get crushed? I think people panic and want to chase that dream. And lastly, I think people don't communicate. Emotions and feelings get bottled up inside to the point that there is no going back. There is no hope. And there is too much anger and hurt for people to try to make it work. Again, not a marriage expert here... but that's just what I think.

So what can we do to make marriage work? Love. Love. Love. Respect. Communicate. Try. Change yourself. Change your attitude. Change your dreams. Compromise. Rekindle that passion. Go out on dates. Hold hands in public. Give random kisses. Do special things. Look at old pictures together and laugh about the good times. Don't say hurtful things. Appreciate the good that the other does. Be their biggest fan.

The list is endless. Marriage is always a working progress. I'm always learning myself. Trying to do better. Be better. For my husband and for my family. For our marriage.

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Grab a button. Answer the questions, link up, and have fun! Be sure to check out next weeks questions to get yourselves ahead :)

 

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Next Week Questions: Fall is in the air

1. Tell us what you are looking forward to this fall?

2. Show us your fall style.

3. Tell us your favorite things to do in the fall. If you have children, activities to do with the kids?

4. Show us your favorite fall beverage.

5. Tell us, how you will be participating in halloween this year. Plans? Costume ideas? 

And the winner of the Erin Condren is: Claudia! Congrats! Please email me to get your voucher code frommrstomama@gmail.com a Rafflecopter giveaway