Wednesday, February 20, 2013

What I really think about "Life with Two."

Isn't much different than life with one. Well. Except for the fact that you now have two mouths to feed. Two schedules to run by. Two needs to meet. Two little humans to show attention and love to. Two to clean. Two to teach. Two to watch. Two to send to college.

College. I need to slow down here. Back up Becky, we aren't there just yet.

Where are we though? We are in a good place. A place where I believe every mother can be and should be when she has two.


Why do I think that it isn't much different? Because I'm going to focus on the main part of motherhood. The meaning behind the word. What makes us mothers. And what keeps us going.

Our Children.

I know I'm getting all mushy and stuff on you guys, but seriously, I'm going to take this to the serious level because I want to put into words how this whole mom-of-two business shouldn't scare you or make you wonder if you can do it.

You can!

The reason we get through the day? The reason we are able to multi-task? The reason why the dishes get washed, the clothes get cleaned, our family gets fed, soccer practice is attended, and crafts are thrown together? Because of us. Mothers. And what or who do we do all this for?

Our Children.

Because we don't know any other life. We do this because this is what we are handed. We don't know any different. We don't know what it's like in another home. We don't know if that mom is handling it better than us. If she has it easier than you and I. If her life is better or worse. If she's got it together.

I said it before and I'll say it again. With confidence. Motherhood is the easiest thing in my life. I was born to do it. I love my children more than anything in the world, and although that sounds cliche, and although those words don't and can't fully portray the depth of my love, it's the only words I have.

Yes. My days are now busier. Yes, I have to think more. Yes, I have to organize my day better. In terms of timing when the baby will nap so I can be alone with E to do her school activities. In terms of prioritizing my mornings so that I can get everyone ready, the beds made, and all of us out of the house in time for appointments and planned activities. In terms of juggling the house duties and getting meals prepared ahead in order to not get behind. Yes, I have to do more. But aside from doing more, is it truly any different than life with one?


You see, you will never be ahead. You will never be perfect. You will never be able to reach the highest, most impossible, level of motherhood that you have expected out of yourself. You won't. Why? Because it is an un-attaible standard that we have set for ourselves.

But guess what, you sure will fight hard to get there. Just like you did with number one, just like you do now with having two. And just like you will if you add more to the picture.

Am I an expert on motherhood? Absolutely not. I can't say I got it all going on. I can't say that I don't have hard days, rough days, days that I look like a mess. But I can tell you this...

I am confident in what I am doing and the life that I am giving for my children.

Perfect? No.
Could be better? Always.

Confident? One hundred percent.


  1. Absolutely needed for a confident, loving mother to write this exact post so that my eyes and heart could soak up these words! So, thank you very much! xo

  2. Awesome, Becky! And life with three isn't much different, either, except I am busier now and have to plan more... One more little soul to take care of... But my love has grown in ways I can't explain! Being confident really helps!! :)

  3. PS - I dreamed I came to your house last night... Is that wierd? I guess I read your other post before bed... Ha!

  4. Seeing you juggle two kids has made me a bit more confident that I'll be able to do it when the time comes!

  5. great post friend!

    oh my that picture of E IN the so cute!!!

  6. I agree with everyone above and you too! It's wonderful to read about a confident mother. I think that I was nervous coming into the mother role but once I dove right in I've found an inner peace that this is what I'm meant to be doing and there's no better feeling then that!


  7. Alright. I'm going to start channelling your confidence :) keep up the good work with those little ones and sharing these beautiful posts!

  8. love this post - two is way different than one, but you got this! way to rock, mama! :)

  9. So inspirational. Thank you. I may have to save this post to read throughout the next year.
    I have a 3 1/2 month old and am 7 weeks pregnant (haven't really announced it). How crazy are we?! No, it wasn't "planned".
    When I think about what our future (especially the next year) has in store for us, I tend to freak out. I feel like I'm going to go crazy!
    I will just need to learn to take a deep breath and have confidence that I'm doing the best I can for my children at all times.

    Thanks, Becky!!

  10. This is such a great post! I feel like I was born to be a Momma and sometimes I wonder what I did with my life before my son came along! :)

  11. I have #2 on the way so this was a great post for me to read!

  12. I needed this!!

    I just had baby #1 11 days ago! We are starting a routine and sometimes it's a little overwhelming.

    Thank you so much for this post! :)


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